Let me be very clear. Therapy is different for each of
us. It is not a one-size-fits-all
extravaganza. It is not life
coaching. It is not those workshops that
are being held around the city that ask you to spend thousands of dollars and
recruit your friends.
Therapy begins with the development of the relationship between the client and the therapist. The quality of this relationship will be a strong determiner into whether treatment is successful. We are unique. We come from different places, different backgrounds. We have different sexual preferences. Our parents and guardians have/had a certain belief system that trickled into our realm. Our society’s gender rules have affected us in ways that have either enhanced or restricted our sense of self and belonging.
Your therapy is yours to mold and create. Your therapy will depend on what you bring into the room. Your successful therapy will involve you having to give up the long-held beliefs that have hampered you. Your successful therapy will involve you listening, absorbing and practicing new ideas and techniques. Your therapy will be successful because you will be working with a guy who is involved, who is listening, who is empathic, and who speaks the truth.
I started this section out by highlighting the existence of life coaching and other workshops. I believe that some individuals who go to see these people are doing themselves a disservice. When we are stuck, when we are dissatisfied, there is something emotional blocking our path. That needs to be examined, because that issue(s) will come up again and again. Quick fixes seem nice in theory, and maybe they work for some, but they have never worked for me. We are all walking around with some level of shame. At it's most basic level, shame is that message that informs us that there is something defective about me. Most of our shame was created early on. We have held onto it, because we tend to believe, "Well, this is just who I am." Well, how is that working for you? This is why therapy is important.
Therapy begins with the development of the relationship between the client and the therapist. The quality of this relationship will be a strong determiner into whether treatment is successful. We are unique. We come from different places, different backgrounds. We have different sexual preferences. Our parents and guardians have/had a certain belief system that trickled into our realm. Our society’s gender rules have affected us in ways that have either enhanced or restricted our sense of self and belonging.
Your therapy is yours to mold and create. Your therapy will depend on what you bring into the room. Your successful therapy will involve you having to give up the long-held beliefs that have hampered you. Your successful therapy will involve you listening, absorbing and practicing new ideas and techniques. Your therapy will be successful because you will be working with a guy who is involved, who is listening, who is empathic, and who speaks the truth.
I started this section out by highlighting the existence of life coaching and other workshops. I believe that some individuals who go to see these people are doing themselves a disservice. When we are stuck, when we are dissatisfied, there is something emotional blocking our path. That needs to be examined, because that issue(s) will come up again and again. Quick fixes seem nice in theory, and maybe they work for some, but they have never worked for me. We are all walking around with some level of shame. At it's most basic level, shame is that message that informs us that there is something defective about me. Most of our shame was created early on. We have held onto it, because we tend to believe, "Well, this is just who I am." Well, how is that working for you? This is why therapy is important.